March is a special month for me it’s the month of my birth. But this year, I’ve decided to treat it as something deeper: a rebirth. So what will be my March Goals?
As a parent, I’ll be honest with you life is loud. Between handling my beautiful “toddlasaurus” at home, navigating his hyper-energy and sudden sickness, and the endless cycle of household work, my mind often feels blocked.
For those of us with a highly sensitive nature and a chaotic, intuitive brain, our cortisol levels stay on high alert.
There are times when we react. We do so because sometimes things are just not how we feel they should be. But let’s breathe. It’s okay. Sometimes not always things don’t work how we want them to, but I truly believe life has better plans for us all.
As part of my March Goals, I want to use this month to declutter our minds from all that pain, trauma, and senseless things that we’ve been carrying.
People will hurt us, and things will be topsy-turvy, but it’s okay. We are making a choice to let go.
Here are 5 proven ways to clear your mind and find your “soul mode” again.
Table Of Contents :
- Take a Pause
- Give yourself time to heal
- Chaos is learning
- What if?
- Trust the plan
- Until we are Alive
1. Honor the “Sensory Pause”
When you have a naturally sensitive, intuitive brain, your environment speaks to you loudly. Add the high-octane energy of a “toddlasaurus” at home the constant movement, the noise, the sudden “mama, look!” and your nervous system can easily hit a breaking point.
Let me be honest with you: as a parent, certain days are filled with so much guilt. I have had sleepless nights because someone asked me, “Why hasn’t your baby started talking yet?” Those words hit like a weight. I found myself spiraling: Am I failing? Did I not do enough?
Then there are the moments at home where he seems so destructive. My overwhelmed mind thinks he is destroying things, but in reality, he is just inquisitive.
His little mind is trying to explore his world. But because my cortisol is high and I am so over-stimulated, I have reached a point where I’ve yelled. And then, I end up crying, wondering why I did that.
Nobody will ever truly understand that specific ache in a mother’s heart. Being a MOM is not for the weak.
The Practice: The 60-Second “Soul-Sabbatical”
This is why the Sensory Pause is a non-negotiable part of my March Goals. When the energy in the house peaks and the guilt starts to rise, we must step away.
The Mindset Shift: Tell yourself, “He is safe. He is exploring. He is doing what he has to do.”
The Release: Close your eyes and let the yell go. Let the guilt go.
The Affirmation: Say to yourself, “It is okay to be overwhelmed. I am learning, just like he is.”
By taking this pause, you aren’t just calming down—you are decluttering that “senseless” guilt that doesn’t belong to you. You are choosing to relax as long as he is safe.
2. Declutter the Trauma and Pain
We often hold onto past hurts like old furniture in a room. We walk around it, trip over it, and let it take up space where joy should be. But let’s be honest: have you ever actually acknowledged the trauma and pain you carry?
It is so necessary to do that. When we reject the fact that something has hurt us by saying, “This is normal, it happens to everyone,” we are making a mistake. Why? Because every brain is different in how it processes pain. The more we accept our hurt, the faster we can heal.
A Lesson from My Own Life
In 2007, I met with a life-changing accident. I was a 19-year-old girl lying on the road, crying out of fear and pain. The ligaments in my left arm were badly torn, and my right knee was injured.
A stranger carried me to the hospital and called my parents. That physical injury took exactly 12 months to heal, and it took another year for my arm to function properly again.
My whole point is this: When we give so much time and grace to a physical injury to heal, why do we think emotional traumas and injuries will just heal themselves?
Acknowledging the “Cruel World”
We are surrounded by things that cause “mental blocks”, people behaving badly, fights at home, a lack of empathy, and people failing our expectations.
From the meaner conversations we endure to the senseless politics of daily life it is so much trauma to handle.
How do you expect yourself to just be “okay”?
The truth is: No, I am not okay, and that is okay.
The Practice: The “Soul Sweep” As part of your March Goals, stop trying to “optimize” your pain and start decluttering it.
Stop the Performance: Don’t tell yourself it’s “normal” when it hurts. Acknowledge the wound so it can finally start to close.
Consciously Sweep: Imagine your mind is a sacred room. If a thought or a memory doesn’t love you back, visualize yourself sweeping it out the door.
Choose Your Guest List: Your mind is too sacred to be a storage unit for senseless things.
3. Reconnect Through the Chaos
When life gets topsy-turvy, our first instinct is often to pull away. We react by shutting down or physically moving away from people. Have you ever done that? I know I have.
This is escapism. We tell ourselves, “I don’t want to talk,” or “I just need to be alone,” because the weight of everyone’s expectations feels like too much. I do it like alwaysss.
But we need to realize something vital: we cannot truly reconnect with people if we are disconnected from ourselves. An unhealed soul has zero to give.
As part of my March Goals, I am learning that to handle the chaos outside, I have to find peace inside first. We need to come back and love ourselves first.
Only then can we show up for others without feeling like we are breaking.
The Practice: The “Inner Joy” Reconnect
Instead of waiting for things to be “perfect” to feel better, find joy in the “messy middle” of your day.
Prioritize “Micro-Joys”: Stop waiting for a big break. Cook your favorite dish just for yourself or wear your best dress. These aren’t just small tasks; they are acts of reclaiming your soul from the chaos.
Let Music Heal You: Music has a frequency that can shift a chaotic brain into a peaceful one. Music heals it really does. When the world feels too loud or your mind feels too blocked, put on your favorite song. Let it sweep out the “senseless” noise.
Stop the Escape: Instead of running away from people, take 5 minutes to just be with yourself. When you are full, you won’t feel the need to hide. Its tough trust me but I am doing like 10 times a day.
4. Drop the “What If” Habit
We all have a voice in our heads that loves to whisper, “What if I had done this differently?” My dear reader, let me be honest: what you did has already happened. Spiraling into the “what if” is useless clutter. Overcoming what has happened is the only way forward.
I often think of the Japanese art of Kintsugi. When a piece of pottery breaks, they don’t throw the shards away. Instead, they repair the breaks with gold. The piece is considered more beautiful because it was broken.
The Practice: The “Golden Repair”
As part of your March Goals, stop trying to be a “perfect” vessel that never breaks. You are not failing; you are rebuilding yourself with the gold of experience.
Gold, Not Guilt: Every day, I tell myself: I have not failed. I am simply gaining the experience I need to grow. On the days when I wasn’t the “best version” of myself the days I yelled or felt blocked I choose to use the gold of self-forgiveness. I don’t throw the day away; I repair it.
Value the Scars: Think about the scar left after I gave birth. For the first year, there was pain. Today, when I touch it, it’s often numb or there is a slight tingling. Soul scars are exactly the same.
Whether it’s from a relationship or a deep hurt, they never completely vanish. When a “meaner conversation” or a senseless comment triggers you, the trauma resurfaces.
That “tingling” doesn’t mean you haven’t healed; it just means you have a history. You are allowed to feel that tingle and still move forward.
The Rebuild: The artist doesn’t ask, “What if the bowl hadn’t dropped?” They ask, “How can I make this rebuild more beautiful?” Your experience as a parent, or in any relationship, is the gold that holds you together.
5. Trust the “Better Plan”
When things don’t work the way you planned, it’s usually because something else something better is unfolding.
I truly believe this: everything that happens is planned, and that is why keeping our Karma correct is so important.
We often try to be so conscious of every little thing, and then when even a small “glitch” happens, we feel shattered. But life is not meant to be controlled; it is meant to be lived.
The Practice: Decluttering the Need for Control
I want you to know: I am practicing this right along with you. As we move through our March Goals, I am also learning to let go of the “how” and trust the “what is.”
Drop the Need for Control: When the world feels topsy-turvy, take a breath. Tell yourself: “I am decluttering my need for control.”
When you stop fighting the current, you stop the cortisol spike and find that “soul mode.”
Focus on Your Karma: Instead of worrying about how people are acting, focus on your own heart.
When we act with kindness and stay true to our path, we can trust that the “Better Plan” is working in our favor, even if we can’t see it yet.
We Are in This Together: My dear reader, I am not standing on a mountain telling you what to do. I am right here in the chaos with you, choosing to breathe instead of react, choosing to heal instead of hide.
Until We Are Alive
This month is about a rebirth that doesn’t ask for perfection, but for honesty. I am practicing this right along with you learning to stop the “what ifs,” valuing the “tingling” of my own scars from the time I gave birth, and trusting the better plan even when the world feels topsy-turvy.
These aren’t just March goals they are “until we are alive” goals to keep our hearts gold and our minds sacred (unless we all end up living on Mars where there is no one!). So, if things improve today, excellent and if they don’t, that is also alright, we will keep trying, keep flowing, and keep rebuilding ourselves with the experience we gain, without being fixed on the results.
Music for the Soul
When the world feels too loud and your mind feels blocked, let this song remind you that your “cracks” are where the light gets in.
Alessia Cara – Scars To Your Beautiful (Official Video)
“You don’t have to change a thing, the world could change its heart. No scars to your beautiful, we’re stars and we’re beautiful.”
About the Author
“I am a lawyer and blogger who believes the law is best understood through the lens of common sense and human connection. Having been a part of the legal profession since 2011, I aim to bridge the gap between complex legalities and everyday life. Beyond the courtroom, I am a mother and a seeker of balance, finding peace in nature, the practice of yoga, the rhythmic flow of swimming, and the journey of self-growth. My mission is to help others navigate life’s tests with both legal clarity and emotional intelligence.”
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Over to You…
I’ve shared my gold and my “tingling” scars with you today, but now I want to hear from you. Which of these 5 points resonated with your heart the most? Are you also learning to find the “gold” in your own journey?
Drop a comment below and let’s talk. Whether it’s a “what if” you’re letting go of or a “better plan” you’re starting to see, I’m right here with you. Let’s keep growing until we are alive.
